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2011-07-16T05:05:00.000-07:00

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Falling SHORT of PERFECT

2011-03-13T14:41:00.000-07:00

Silence girl's loudest cry

2011-03-06T03:02:00.000-08:00

AgyTalks magazine

2011-03-02T12:45:00.000-08:00

A Line or Circle?

2010-12-02T14:24:00.000-08:00

I keep wondering why there are so much troubled people around. The more I study psychology, the more I realize that everything comes from childhood. Childhood makes us what we are now.

So can we put all the blame on our parents, or is it just an excuse for our actions?

Does a drug user or alcoholic, anorexic or someone who just has some socializing problem, has to take responsibility for himself or does it starts deeper, way back in the past?

Cannot help but wonder does life is a line or does it go in circles?

Troubled parents make troubled children, who then grow up and do the same, and that happens again and again…

Does it?

Is it in our hands to break the ritual?

It’s not easy to make a Tabula Rasa, and start all over again... Home is the place where we take our first steps, the place where we say our first words and it is also the place where we meet face to face with love, understanding, and rendering of help, kindness but unfortunately in some cases also guilt, betrayal, jealousy, pain, hurt and tears. A child takes the family in like a wing under which he is safe and no matter what is his family, he loves it more than anything else. And it depends on family either it will go down in the world or die away.

The children are the mirror of their parents, but what if this mirror is already broken…

Some might say: What I have done to deserve this…?

We don’t get what we deserve, we just get what we get and we have to live with it.

If life goes in circles there is actually no end and no beginning, so there is nothing we can do about it.

But if it is a line we never now what’s ahead…

People use masks every day and sometimes we use them so much that we forget what we really are, lucky are those who have somebody who pulls back and helps to see themselves again.

To all intents and purposes home gives the rise of everything either in a good way or not and those lucky enough to be able to help after that do.

Have a nice day, My Loves…

Xoxo

Agy

17 Question Tag- part 2

2010-11-26T10:27:00.000-08:00

8. What's your favorite thing to do when you are upset?

There is that weird thing about me that I just can't cry, and it's not like I don't want, I'm just simply not able to, there are no tears coming out of my eyes. But I do get upset and actually despite my incapability to cry I am a very emotional person and I get upset a lot. So what I do...yeah it sounds like a very cliche answer but I like to eat my feelings, I love sweets, chocolate and a wine are my two best friends when I am feeling upset, I like to put on a loud music and sing to it like no one were listening. I love warm, sweet ,cosy and soft things, so I usually light some sweet-scented candles and watch one of my favorite movies. I just need time alone.

9. What's your favorite movie?

There have always been 3 movies:

Green Mile
Coyote Ugly
The City Of Angles

But there is one more movie that actually isn't so good I just don't know what I like about it, but whenever I am sad I watch Holidays, this movie just makes me feel better, don't know why. And recently I watch Eat,Love,Pray, and I can definitely add this movie to my Top 3

10. What one food could you not live without?

Hmm... I actually really need food to function normally, I am not able to think if I am hungry, whenever I am angry or sad if someone gives me something to eat I begin to smile, I don't know why but it has been like that since I have borned ,I think it's some kind of chemical process in my organism, so I just need food, but if I had to give away all the food and choose to just keep one, I would probably choose bread or some carby, something with carbs like pasta,

11. What is your favorite dessert?

Oh..my favorite dessert is apple pudding , it is my grandmother's recipe. It is simply made of white bread apples, sour cream, sugar and cinnamon, and you eat it hot with cold milk, I could eat it 24/7.

12. What is your favorite pizza topping?

I like it actually very simple, like cheese with pinapples or mushrooms, I don't like any meat on my pizza, ok sometimes I put peperoni, but usually it is very simple. I have never liked a lot of different food put together.

13. Would you rather have a superpower to read minds or to be invisible?

As much as I want to say I would like to get into someone's head and to know what he is thinking, But it's one of the things most personal, someone's mind ,no matter how hard you try, most average people can't read each other minds and I feel like that's the place where all of your secrets are saved, your secrets are safe if you just keep them in your mind, you don't tell anyone. And also if you had to read minds all the time it would become very annoying and painful. So I would rather have a superpower to be invisible.

14. What did you do for your last birthday?

I just hang out with my 3 best friends, we drank champagne and eat cake and it was actually a very chill day with my best girls, just laughing and gossiping and taking photos, stuff girls usually do.

To Be Continued...

Previous questions! Here!

17 Question Tag- part 1

2010-11-24T01:35:00.000-08:00

Hello, my Loves, busy time for me so it comes that I'm lacking on my blog.

But here I go, and this time, as some of you asked me to get more personal, I decided to do a 17 random question Tag, which I found on youtube. So here are the first 7 questions and I tag all you to do the same and please leave your link in comments bar so I can read it.

from devianart
by anyffe

1. If you could change your name to anything, what would it be and why?

Oh it would be Naomi, I don't know I have always liked this name.

2.If you could go back in time and tell your younger self, what would it be and why?

I would definitely tell my younger self that You can be anything in the world, in God we trust, but nothing comes easy it takes much practice. Act your age, don't pretend to be older than you are, give yourself time to grow, to enjoy the childhood,when you don't have to worry about anything, of course you always think that problems you are having at that moment is the end of the world,but there will come times when there are more important things to worry about, don't grow up too fast, take your time to explore the world, because you might miss some good and important things, and by missing them you are stealing a smile from older you.

3. How old were you when you learned to blow a bubble?

Oh...I actually don't remember...I think I was 5 or 6 years old. I remember I had to go to doctor that day to get vaccinated, and I'm a person who is terrified of needles, it's like my worst nightmare, even now, when I'm an adult, but back then I couldn't even sleep at night knowing that I would have to get a vaccine. So my mother told me that if I got through that doctor appointment and be strong I would get a whole package of Huba Buba Gum. So I tried to be strong and not to cry, so afterwards I got the Huba Buba and I took three in one time,I couldn't even close my mouth, but I was so happy and I asked my mom how to blow a bubble, and she told me and I tried to blow a bubble all the way home and at the end I manage to do it, but the bubble was so huge cause I had tree gums, and it bursted all over my face, it seemed so funny for me...yeh...it was one of my happiest days after all...

4. What did you want to be when you were little?

Ok when I was really little I wanted to work in library, but then since 5th grade I've always wanted to be a psychologist, so yeah, that basically has not changed, now I'm a psychology student and still want to be a psychologist, yes I was very young when I decided what I wanna be when I grow up.

5. Do you drink tea or coffee?

Ok...I prefer tea, but I have to be at work very early in the morning and sometimes I have trainings afterwards so yeah... then I drink coffee, I just need it to get through the long day,but it's not like I like drinking coffee, it's more like the drug I need in such busy days. But I love drinking tea!

6. What's the hardest you've ever laughed?

I have a lot of times when I've laughed very hard, but at the moment there is one moment that comes into my mind. I was very little, and me and my granny went to grocery store, we bought eggs and granny put them in a plastic bag, and so we were going home and when we were almost home the plastic bag suddenly broke and all the eggs fell out and broke too, it seem so funny for me at that moment that I couldn't stop laughing, I was like 4 or 5 years old, and I remember that my granny was laughing too so loud that also all the people on the street stopped and laughed. I think that our laughing was more funny than the fact that all the eggs broke.

7. If you could play any musical instrument what would it be and why?

Well I can play piano a little, but not professionally, but I totally would like to learn to play saxophone, I love how it sounds.

To Be Continued....

xoxo Agy

Almost.

2010-11-18T08:19:00.000-08:00

Almost got what I want
Almost found what I lost
Almost saved you and myself
Almost won but it doesn't count
And never does
Never does

One green light
One more ring of the telephone
One more step
One more second
And I almost
Almost

One hello
Just one kiss before the tears come
One yes
One chance
And I almost
Almost almost almost

One day one year
5,000 weeks
A life of good works and good deeds
Let me be let me be closer
Or let me be
Let me be

One good guess
A question with an answer that I know
One idea
One grand notion
And I almost
Almost almost almost

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't."

/Erica Jong/

I just adore this song....

2010-11-12T03:28:00.000-08:00

Sometimes you just need to allow yourself to fall apart in order to be able to put yourself back together again.

Find your All That.

2010-11-03T00:06:00.000-07:00

Show some confidence in who you are.

Love yourself.

Don’t be afraid to feel like you deserve the world.

by ~paranoidalna

Deviantart

If ever in a club or room or something, a woman comes in…and…she’s just looking fantastic or just has that aura, just…when she just…you think, that she feels that she is All That, and there’s something inside you…where you go like…ahrr… I mean the jealousy thing…and either in our heads or we whisper to our friends:

- Oh she thinks she’s All That!

I…whenever I start feeling like that, I have to check myself and go…No she IS All That, and she is making me feel kind a jealous right now, ‘cause I’m not feeling I’m All That right NOW. And I think as women we are always apologizing, we are always trying to shrink, we’re always trying to look smaller and look like:

- Oh no…I…I’m not…that great…oh no…I’m ok…oh no…it’s…

And you know…there is this thing that if a woman has strength, if she has pride, even if she has power, that’s almost a negative thing…We have to down ourselves…and…what do you call that…take jabs at ourselves. And not flower and flourish and fun of people…and I wanna tell women:

- Pop your color! Like…Stand up straight, don’t hunch at the award show on that mic… you know…claim that power and be proud of your accomplishments, and walk into the room and have everybody go in them like ahrr…

Because you are All That…and that’s OK!

Tyra Banks

from tyra.com

With All The Love,

Agy

More personal...? Ok....

2010-10-29T22:45:00.000-07:00

Hello everyone,

today I opened my eyes early cause I have planned to spend all my day at school, but first things first and as I woke up I also opened yahoo mail box and 2 mails cached my eye.

The first one was from IntenseDebate Notifications that I had a new comment, but when I read it through it wasn't just a random comment, it says:

Congratulations! Your blog has been hand selected and
recognized by add your blog.com to receive our - "Blog Star Award" !

Your blog was chosen by our webmasters, to honor your hard
work and dedication in providing a quality web log.
Requirements:
1)Quality Web Content.
2)Great Design .
3)Web Log Everyone Will Love To Read .
Thank You For The Opportunity To View Your Great Blog,
Keep Up The Good Work,

I actually don't mind getting comments like this. Thank You!
The second mail was interesting as well, it was from Mandy and she says:

Hi Agy, I love reading your blog, your posts are usually full of emotions, I love the design of your blog, but I would like to get to know you more personal, so could you please start posting something more personal, maybe something about your life, where do you live, how you spend your days, what do you feel and so on...

Best wishes,

Mandy

Ok...here you go Mandy...when I started blogging I didn't think it would go this far and somebody would actually ask me for posting something, I didn't even think somebody would read it. But now there are a lot of people reading my blog and a lot of my close people and friends included, so if I made my blog posts more personal it would include also people around me and many of them would not appreciate it.

But I thought it through and made up my mind to put a little more personal touch in my posts now and then. I might need it for my self as well, like a psychotherapy session. Thank You for your letter Mandy!

Ok, it's time for me to run to school, as a matter of fact this could be my first personal post! :))

Have a nice day, my Loves

XoXo

Agy

Everything goes on...

2010-10-25T14:41:00.000-07:00

Reality is what you want to see
It shouldn’t make a difference to me
I put my trust in what you had to say
It didn’t make a difference anyway

I know you’ve tried your very best
And I’m so glad
Thank you so much

Disappointment is what you’ve made this
Expectations overrated
Disappointment is what you’ve made this
My ambition is so deflated

Reality is different for me
My eyes are opened wide enough to see
I’ve listened to your explinations why
The more you fail, the harder that I try

A case of mistaken opportunity
I guess I really got it wrong
Identity is insignificant
Or is it everything?

Disappointed by Face to Face

Simple.

2010-10-24T11:54:00.000-07:00

Photo by *PaSt1978 from Devianart

"You are, after all, what you think. Your emotions are the slaves to your thoughts,and you are the slave to your emotions."

— Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)

Choose Your Thoughts.

2010-10-20T23:36:00.000-07:00

"There is so much about my fate that I cannot control, but other things do fall under the jurisdiction. I can decide how I spend my time, whom I interact with, whom I share my body and life and money and energy with. I can select what I can read and eat and study. I can choose how I'm going to regard unfortunate circumstances in my life-whether I will see them as curses or opportunities. I can choose my words and the tone of voice in which I speak to others. And most of all, I can choose my thoughts."

— Elizabeth Gilbert - Eat, Pray, Love

Happy Birthday My Love!

xoxo

Purse.

2010-10-19T06:13:00.000-07:00

It's called a purse and as any woman knows, it can hold just about anything. From a personalized cell phone to a romance novel, to much needed medication. Whatever you find inside, there is one thing you can be sure of - every purse says something about the woman who owns it, whether she knows it or not. /DH/

Relax...

2010-10-09T12:22:00.000-07:00

I know God will not give me anything I can't handle.

I just wish He didn't trust me so much.

~Mother Teresa~

Unhealing pain.

2010-10-07T07:40:00.000-07:00

Director: Chris Milk

Music Gnarls Barkley

USA, 2008

http://www.gnarlsbarkley.com /

http://www.chrismilk.com/

There are certain kinds of pain, that can't be treated in a hospital, so those who are suffering do what they can to heal themselves, some cure the ache of loneliness by making new friends,some sew their excruciating guilt with an infusion of cash, some alleviate their burning desire with small acts of kindness. But sadly there will always be those who can't beging to heal because they realize, there is more pain yet to come.

Desperate Housewives

Season 7, Episode02

Get started now.

2010-10-04T21:46:00.000-07:00

Don't wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect.

There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions.

So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger

and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more

successful.

-Mark Victor Hansen-

Choice.

2010-10-02T06:29:00.000-07:00

People make choices every day,and those choices are what define us. Some of us choose to be loyal, when they're angry and hurt,some of us choose to be brave, they were frightened out of their minds. Others choose to strike out when they could walked away. But what about those poor people who are trapped by circumstance, what happens to those who have no choices left?
/DH/

Quote for day.

2010-09-29T13:28:00.000-07:00

Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.
- William B. Sprague

.................

2010-09-28T13:18:00.000-07:00

Crazy isn't being broken or swallowing a dark secret.
It's you or me amplified.
If you've ever told a lie and enjoyed it
If you've ever wished you could be a child forever
They were not perfect but they were my friends
/Girl,Interrupted/

Pasts...

2010-09-26T05:17:00.000-07:00

Pasts...they come in all shapes and sizes and disrupt our lifes in variety of ways. At first, they're nearly annoying and we do our best to ignore them, but if we don't take them seriously, they can become quite dangerous. Personae... but the problem with pasts is...what they leave behind, is justice dangerous.

DH.

Smile on credit.

2010-09-21T05:22:00.000-07:00

Listen,

Give me a smile on credit,

You just see,

That I have nothing to give you back,

But a smile I need...

I have to love,

I have to sing,

I have to lead -

Does a man without smile

Can do that?

Lend me...

Then full of intentions creative

Happy I'll come home, where freezes

For this smile one hundred songs

I'll give you,

Where my voice won't be so sad.

Don't give the smile if I'm not worth it.

Just know, the best in the world,

Most beautiful, pure for me

Worth the warmth of your eyes.

And a smile I need...

I have to love, to sing,

I have to lead -

And does a man without smile can do that?

Listen,

Give me a smile on credit

When see,

I have nothing to give you back.

Youtube Sensation - Hand Dancers

2010-09-20T07:48:00.000-07:00

Suzanne Cleary and Peter Harding used their hands to become a Web hit. More than 1,900 views on YouTube. They are Irish dancers, they've known each other since they were 15, when they used to go to competitions, when they were kids, they used to practice on their hands before they got to the competition, so they thought it would be a great thing to show the world. They contacted film director Johnny Reed and decided to make a video. For this performance they have been practicing for 2 weeks.

even if it’s treasonous?

2010-09-19T03:08:00.000-07:00

“Why do we have to listen to our hearts?” the boy asked, when they had made camp that day.

“Because, wherever your heart is, that is where you’ll find your treasure.”

“But my heart is agitated,” the boy said. “It has its dreams, it gets emotional, and it’s become passionate over a woman of the desert. It asks things of me, and it keeps me from sleeping many nights, when I’m thinking about her.”

“Well, that’s good. Your heart is alive. Keep listening to what it has to say.”

“My heart is a traitor,” the boy said to the alchemist, when they had paused to rest the horses. “It doesn’t want me to go on.”

“That makes sense. Naturally it’s afraid that, in pursuing your dream, you might lose everything you’ve won.”

“Well, then, why should I listen to my heart?”

“Because you will never again be able to keep it quiet. Even if you pretend not to have heard what it tells you, it will always be there inside you, repeating to you what you’re thinking about life and about the world.”

“You mean I should listen, even if it’s treasonous?”

“Treason is a blow that comes unexpectedly. If you know your heart well, it will never be able to do that to you. Because you’ll know its dreams and wishes, and will know how to deal with them.

“My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer,” the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky.

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second’s encounter with God and with eternity.”

“Every second of the search is an encounter with God,” the boy told his heart. “When I have been truly searching for my treasure, every day has been luminous, because I’ve known that every hour was a part of the dream that I would find it. When I have been truly searching for my treasure, I’ve discovered things along the way that I never would have seen had I not had the courage to try things that seemed impossible for a shepherd to achieve.”

So his heart was quiet for an entire afternoon. “Everyone on earth has a treasure that awaits him,” his heart said. “We, people’s hearts, seldom say much about those treasures, because people no longer want to go in search of them. We speak of them only to children. Later, we simply let life proceed, in its own direction, toward its own fate. But, unfortunately, very few follow the path laid out for them—the path to their destinies, and to happiness. Most people see the world as a threatening place, and, because they do, the world turns out indeed, to be threatening place.

“So, we, their hearts, speak more and more softly. We never stop speaking out, but we begin to hope that our words won’t be heard: we don’t want people to suffer because they don’t follow their hearts.”

From “The Alchemist”

Confession...

2010-09-14T13:57:00.000-07:00

Today a person told me: "You are a perfect girl". Well then you should know that...

I really don't think that anyone in this world knows the real me. My closest friends know me better than anyone else, but I don't think I’ve ever let certain sides of me come out around anyone except myself.

I'm not perfect, I never tried to be. I've made mistakes. I've taken the easy way out. I've lied to my friends. I've hidden the truth so many times from so many people. I've hurt people, and I've even done it on purpose. I've left people behind. I've spread rumors. I've said things that I didn't mean. I'm no better than anyone, anywhere. I eat when I’m bored, I fall for boys too easily, I’m vulnerable to their lies, I’m hoping that one day someone can get to know me without me getting into a long story,I live by quotes that explain exactly what I’m going through, I make excuses...
I'm human. I have faults, and I'm not afraid to admit ... Because that's what we do. That's what we've always done. We list our faults like a grocery list, and we move on, expecting everything to somehow change itself. It never will. We will always make mistakes. I'll, more often than not, take the easy way out. I will lie, hide the truth, hurt people, leave people behind, spread rumors, and say things I don't mean...

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

At times I wish I could change the past...but sometimes the past changes you. Never regret anything because at some point, you wanted it.

What I say and what I feel are 2 entirely different things. That's just the way I am
You can love me, hate me, resent me, respect me, but you have to accept me for me, because that’s all I'll ever be.

The best feeling in the world is doing something everyone said you couldn’t

I'm not perfect girl. My hair doesn't always stay in place. I sometimes fight and maybe some days nothing goes right. But when I think about it and I take a step back. I remember how amazing my life truly is.

I’m not gonna get drunk to please the crowd
I'm not gonna be a slut and sleep around
I'm gonna say what I think and say it loud
I'm gonna say what I believe & I'm gonna stand proud
I'm gonna be me, no matter who I'm around..

Listen to what people say when they are mad, that is when the truth comes out...

You can make whatever you want out of YOUR life, but first you have to not be afraid to try

Worry about your character and not your reputation, because your character is who you are, and your reputation is only what people think of you.

Cling to your imperfections... They're what makes you unique

If you could go back in time 10 years and tell your younger self something, what would it be?

2010-09-12T07:57:00.001-07:00

Noone told it would be easy...

Ask me anything

If you had the opportunity to live one year of your life over again, which year would you choose?

2010-09-12T07:56:00.001-07:00

When I was 14 years old

Ask me anything

'Screaming Children Will Not Be Tolerated'

2010-09-09T14:42:00.000-07:00

Brenda Arms,The owner of the Local restaurant in the state of North Carolina has put up a sign reading: "Screaming Children Will Not Be Tolerated". It has made a controversy and huge parents reaction who are sending interminable emails complaining, it has made interminable debates whether the owner has a right to say no to these people who wanna bring their children in there or is it a discrimination and against the law.

Watch the video and leave your comments, what do you think about this sign, do you agree or not. And does the screaming child really is a sign of bad parents?

Thank You,

Agy

The Six.

2010-09-08T12:36:00.000-07:00

You don't always have to win to make a change.

Summer reverse Autumn

2010-09-06T08:24:00.000-07:00

I must confess that Fall is not my most favorite time of year. That distinction belongs to Summer. The reason Summer holds first place in my heart is primarily because the gradually lengthening days never fail to bring me out of the light-deprived funk I always fall into during the winter months. In summer I come out of a sort of emotional hibernation and become more alive. I love the hot weather and I feel I have twice the energy I am having in Winter.

You will say that every season is special and that you cant say that one is better than other. Yes, Still, Autumn does hold a special place, and the reason it does is because of all the glorious color.

Color has always had a special place in the human experience. It can have a huge impact on our mood, our emotions, our thought processes, and even our level of motivation. Advertisers know this, as do interior designers, artists, and even specialists in gambling casino layouts. We usually don't realize hoe much it’s in our very nature to be affected by color.

It’s in the very nature of the Autumn colors to exude passion as well as warmth and gentleness. When the leaves begin to blaze red, it feels like life is making one last passionate statement about its power and grandeur before retiring. The oranges, yellows and browns set a more calming tone. Because blue is the peaceful color, the calming tones of the leaves, coupled with the clear blue sky can have a particularly soothing effect. And as the leaves begin to fall, the whole process that occurs as the ground is gently covered makes it seem like nature is slowly, warmly, and peacefully, tucking itself in for the winter.

There’s no doubt in my mind that Fall would be my least favorite season were it not for the color. I am so sunlight sensitive that the shortening, darkening days are never a welcome event for me. But the abundance of color and the statements nature seems to make with its grand displays take a lot of the sting out of the knowledge that winter is right around the corner.

So, the autumn season is still one of my favorite times of the year – but only because of all that glorious color!

Tell me what's your favorite season of the year !

xoxo

Agy

Sleepless Nights

2010-09-05T06:16:00.000-07:00

Insomnia and other sleep disorders are very common in our lifes, yet are not generally well understood even by doctors and other health care professionals.
The below map overlay of the world shows the amount of cases of insomnia per 100,000 people with red being many cases going to pale yellow for not that many.

As you can see, the more built up the country or developed it is, the less people can get to sleep. Is this because the pace of life is faster or merely because we know about insomnia and therefore diagnose it?

Sleeping disorders are categorized in 3 groups:

insomnia
parasomnias
circadian rhythm disorders

Sleep experts agree that insomnia is a condition of unsatisfactory sleep, either in terms of sleep onset, sleep maintenance or early waking. Insomnia is considered a '24-hour' disorder, because it isn't just chasing us at night but also impairs our ability to work properly through the next day. Insomnia is similar to pain , sometimes it is difficult to pinpoint a cause although this doesn't prevent diagnosis.

Stress, life changes, a new baby, or shift work are typical factors that can trigger insomnia, but for some people this acute insomnia persists into a chronic state. Anxiety about sleep, maladaptive sleep habits and the possibility of an underlying vulnerability in sleep regulating mechanisms are all likely causes, as are other co-morbid disorders such as anxiety and depression, and diseases including cancer or arthritis.

The good news is that insomnia can often be improved with specialist cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) targeted at insomnia, which is as effective as prescription medications for short-term treatments for chronic insomnia. In addition, CBT is more likely to have a longer-lasting effect than drug treatment.However access to this type of treatment for insomnia sufferers is not always easy to access in the whole world.

Interesting: Women have a higher incidence of insomnia than men, and the older we get the more likely we are to suffer from poor sleep. Around a third of adults in Western countries will experience some difficulty getting to sleep or staying asleep at least once a week, and between six and 15 percent are thought to have full-blown insomnia.

Circadian rhythm disorders occur when our internal clocks don't match our daily lives. Caused most often by shift work and jet lag, some people also routinely have difficulty going to bed before two or three AM and waking up in the morning on time (delayed sleep phase syndrome). Others get cumulatively later as time goes, a condition known as free running sleep disorder

Night terrors, sleep walking and violent behavior at night are known as 'parasomnias.' The subject wakes abruptly from slow-wave sleep, with waking usually accompanied by gasping, moaning, or screaming while waking. It is often impossible to awaken the person fully because they are so concentrated on waking, and after the episode the subject normally settles back to sleep without waking. A night terror can rarely be recalled by the subject. They typically occur during non-rapid eye movement sleep.

Interesting:

Both insomnia patients and normal sleepers define sleep quality by tiredness upon waking and throughout the day, feeling rested and restored upon waking, and the number of awakenings they experienced in the night. Further, people with insomnia have more requirements for judging sleep to be of good quality, according to a new study.

Everyone has an occasional night of bad sleep. For most people, insomnia lasts only a few days and goes away without treatment. However, factors such as stress can cause a higher level of insomnia that may last for several weeks. This kind of insomnia may not go away on its own, and can lead to both short- and long-term health problems if left untreated. According to a study published in the July 1st issue of the journal SLEEP, chronic insomnia can increase one's chances for developing anxiety disorders and depression.

In a study that insomniacs may find welcoming, imagery rehearsal therapy (IRT) has been shown to subjectively improve their ability to get a good night's sleep, according to new research.

High school students with a delayed school start time are more likely to take advantage of the extra time in bed, and less likely to report daytime sleepiness

What Difference Does That Make?

2010-08-27T05:06:00.000-07:00

One thing that our individuality means is that something can happen to me and it will not affect someone else. If I hit my thumb with a hammer, I feel the pain and others may not. At which point it usually doesn’t help to be told something like, “But everyone feels pain when they hit their thumb with a hammer”.

This doesn’t often happen with physical trauma. But it can be a different story with emotional experiences. A child who hates school can be told that everyone has to go to school. A person who hates being bullied but can be told that all workplaces have bullies and petty politics.

To these kinds of comments I think reply, “What difference does that make?”, is very apt.

“What difference does that make?” cuts through other’s attempts to minimize someone’s pain or suffering. It raises the question of what can be done.

My guess is that when we try to minimize other’s suffering it is because we are uncomfortable. Perhaps we have empathy for them and so feel pain also — which may be very unpleasant, and who could blame us for wanting to be rid of pain? Perhaps the kind of pain they have is uncomfortable for us — if we are a concert pianist we may not want to contemplate for a second that our hands could be damaged. If it is emotional pain we may be uncomfortable with the emotion — in Anglo-Saxon cultures for instance, from what I’ve observed, men can be uncomfortable with sadness, and women uncomfortable with anger — or the situation that provoked it. (If I was assaulted often by my father I may not want to hear about someone else’s experience of the same thing.)

What I’d like to suggest is that if we can listen to the experience of someone in pain then this will likely help the relationship. This may be a split second — like saying, “Ow”, if you see someone hit their thumb, or even just flinching and not saying anything for a moment — or a very long time — if it involves listening to someone sort out a difficult situation.

To share experiences of delight and pleasure is marvelous. To listen to someone in pain can also deepen a relationship. What I’m suggesting is that to minimise someone else’s pain will likely not help the relationship and may even damage it. When I am told things like, “But everyone has to do that” or, “Everyone feels like that”, I usually feel some anger or resentment. I can’t recall once when it has benefitted the relationship.

This means that I may need to sit with my discomfort as well as the other’s pain. This means that I may need lots of support to do this. And being in touch with my own feelings and reactions — that is not minimising my own reactions either.

Do you think there are times when you’d like to say , “What difference does that make?” Let me know in the comments when you think this question could be useful to you — even if you don’t utter it out loud.

Relevant or Not.

2010-08-14T12:18:00.000-07:00

A few times in my life I've had moments of absolute clarity. When for a few brief seconds...the silence drowns out the noise...and I can feel rather than think. And things seem so sharp...And the world seem so fresh...as though it had all just come into existence. I can never make these moments last. I cling to them...but like everything they fade. I've lived my life on these moments. They pull me back to the present...and I realized that everything is exactly the way it was meant to be.

We are always told to live our life as every day was the last, but how would you live your life if you new you could never die, why dying changes everything...? At the end it's not all about living...it's about feeling alive...

2010-05-11T12:14:00.000-07:00

Life is not easy, but It is simple

2010-05-09T12:00:00.000-07:00

Everyone has someone to Love.

2010-05-02T11:56:00.000-07:00

Hurt yourself on the outside trying to kill the thing inside

Letter to a reader

2010-04-21T11:09:00.000-07:00

"There is no smoke without fire." With what a facility we sometimes run to the flame and warm up our hands , without thinking who and for what purpose fires it. It is marvelous how fast and irresistible gossips, rumors, sleazy jokes spread. Does one grudging person and his followers are responsible for delivering them worldwide? That's impossible! The guilty ones are usually ourselves. Eager for sensations, eager for shocking news. Devour to satisfy our interest and amaze friend with a new message. We forget to see the deepest essence of our actions. By retelling some, as thought, innocent joke or gossip, we help that grudging person to do his nasty job. And by supporting the scoundrel, we accept the villainy in our souls as well.

We, "innocent" listeners usually don't measure the essence of the envious person. Today he is able just to hiss, because the ability to bite has been taken away. But another day by hiding behind the fairness mask, he is ready to destroy anyone who will rise anywhere above him, who is smarter, nobler.

Yes, jealousy is a reality. Also in everyone of us. The question is, does it stays as a seed or will it grow and overrun our souls. Where to find the strength, that will stop the way for jealousy?

There is an easy word - modesty. This time I didn't mean inactivity and humbleness. In life you have to be a realist and you have to submit your goals to your options.

Before envy, before complain about something you don't have, stop and think for a while what you have got. Maybe you have little money and don't have the strength to earn it. Maybe your home is just one little room, but you have children who love and respect you, you have faithful friends. Don't you envy the one who is worth to pity now?

Leave your comment and say what your are thankful for in life!

XOXO

Agy

2010-04-06T15:29:00.000-07:00

What a true friend really is?

Someone you always miss.
The one who smiles when you are sad, but cries inside his heart.
Put his problems behind and gives you the glass of wine.
Never says that you have drunk to much, instead gives you another glass.
Always help to stand on your feet.
Gives you a strong look when you deserve it.
Doesn't say: ''I told you!'', when you are wrong again.
Doesn't expect anything in return.
Gives you the warmest blanket when you are cold and his last peace of bread when you are hungry.
Won't jump from bridge shouting:" You see? I love you!" But jump to save your life so you'll feel the love.
Friend- just a peace of the whole world, but the last peace to complete You!
Pushing away someone who is friend you may push away your balance.

We don't see people who hold our balance until we have lost them.

To make that not happen, let's open our eyes and look around, maybe sometimes, when you think that the whole world has turned its back to you...

...it is your back that is turned to the world...

So Post your list of BFF characteristics
and
Put Your blog on the list so others can read and comment

Grab the code put the list on your blog HERE!

2010-04-06T04:43:00.000-07:00

There is nothing more deceptive than a smile, an noone knows this better than the people who hide behind them. Some flash their teeth as a polite "morning" to their enemies, some put on beaming faces to keep their tears falling ,others were silly grooms to mask their fear, but then there is that rare smile, that is actually genuine! It's smile of the person who knows his troubles will soon be over.

/Desperate Housewives/

Cheese For Free Is Just In Mousetrap

2010-03-21T05:38:00.000-07:00

Every day there is a certain time when the house is becoming silent and sleepy. We take that time to get up steam so we can do our business in the morning.

For someone it's earning money so he can provide his family, for housewives to take care of the children so they grow up strong and happy, loving their parents,for student to go to school to get the education we all need in life, for an old lady to make cupcakes for the neighbour meeting so she doesn't feel lonely.

Yes...We all know nothing in life comes for free, everything has its price...

When we fell asleep Stuart Little starts his every day journey down the dark and silent hall, turning left, down the stairs and then turning right...Yes, there it is! Just in front of him - The Big Peace Of Cheese. Be careful, little mouse, we all know there is always a catch.

The alarm beeps and in half an hour the daily noise is back. Children voices, mothers' last instructions, fathers' morning business calls...Everything is the same except that in the middle of the kitchen, in the mousetrap there is NO cheese and... NO Mouse, AGAIN...

Yes, maybe there is such a thing as getting something without paying the price, but we should remember that no matter how careful we are there is always the risk to get trapped...

Studies, dance, beauty sleep?

2010-03-09T11:24:00.000-08:00

Hey everyone who follows me or is visiting! Long time no see?

Yeh, I have been busy pretty much lately with my psychology studies, so today's post will be just random post about myself, I am going to talk about my studying routine basically sleeping habits. Most of you are probably thinking now: what's interesting about sleeping habits? Well you'll see that mine is strange and seem weird to most of people.

So as you might all know being a full time student takes a lot of your time and effort & so important beauty sleep. 'Cause you have to study a lot & stay up late at night so on..but I have a big problem with studying till the middle of the night, 'cause when the clock ding dong its 10th hour pm I become very sleepy, it's like VERY sleepy, so I am not able to force my brains to study or even remember anything. I am totally not an evening person I can do physical activities, I have all my dance trainings in the evenings sometimes even till 11pm, that's ok with me, but when it comes to studies, gosh...

So what's my solution...? As I am a total morning person, I go to bed and if I have to study for test or do some assignments for school I wake up at 4am or 5am, then I study, take shower, eat breakfast and go to school. Most of my friends say that that's not even a morning, that's the middle of the night. well technically It IS morning...people are saying that they could stay up and study till 4 or 5 am but to go to sleep & THEN wake up? It is impossible! Well it works for me..

Some of my friends say that I am insomniac, but I don't agree 'cause insomniacs sleep during the day & are active at night, well.. yeh if you put 4am as a night hour and 10pm as day hour... maybe I could be insomniac, but I just don't put it that way, I just don't have any problems to wake up early in the morning.

Well.. You tell Me what are your sleeping habits, when do you study if you are a student or you used to be, or maybe you have some other work that should be done, do you think I am insomniac or what? Leave comments,tell your opinion.

xoxo

AgyTalks

Charity ---> Home--->Charity ?

2010-03-06T07:03:00.000-08:00

What is charity?

A foundation created to promote the public good?
A kindly and lenient attitude toward people
or maybe an activity or gift that benefits the public at large?

There are several definitions for the word “charity”. But it is not just a word of seven letters, it has amazing power.

Charity is opening your heart and giving a hand to someone in need.
Charity doesn't necessarily have to be something material. Sometimes just being there can have much greater value than money or worldly goods.
Charity which comes from within the heart shows that you care and have compassion for the people around you.
Charity is the giving of your time and energy for a worthy cause.
Simply spreading good words of faith to your community.
By giving of one self without expecting anything in return.
Having the spirit in you to brighten someone's day
or Bible reading with children is acts of charity.

Where do we get this insight?

When there comes a child into the world, there is a new life without faithlessness, fear and evil. The baby is like a little angel and there is a family which will be the best life model for him during all his life. Home is the place where we take our first steps, the place where we say our first words and it is also the place where we meet face to face with love, understanding, and rendering of help, kindness and also with charity. A child takes the family in like a wing under which he is safe and no matter what is his family, he loves it more than anything else. And it depends on family either it will go down in the world or die away.

The children are the mirror of their parents. How can you help others if you can't help yourself and your own family? Charity is not a selfish thought. If everyone was beneficent at home, we would have much less need for charitable causes. Logic suggests that if you can't manage your own affairs, then you aren't really in a position to contribute to the affairs of others. One of the first lessons I learned in Emergency Medical care was that your first priority was to look out for yourself. You can't do anything for anyone else if you're not at your best first. I personally would like to think that charity starts at home.

More and more wealthy parents decide not to leave their fortunes to their sons and daughters. They want to show their children the root of charity, that life is earning your own living, not living on what your parents have got. It is easy to give away others money but it is a charity to donate your own money. It is not just a money but also hard work to get it and that is the heart of charity

However, what if you are charitable at home and help support your sick parents, whilst other members of the family are well known for being generous to charities, but avoid the difficulties in their own family? They try to fill the gap that has been made in their family instead of trying to solve the problems. So there is another aspect why should we consider charity starting at home. My family is the most important thing to me so I wouldn’t give to charity but make my family go without, To all intents and purposes home gives the rise of everything either in a good way or not and those lucky enough to be able to help after that do.

Seduce or lose

2010-03-02T05:30:00.000-08:00

Desperate Housewives

Monday Quote

“Seduction is an art. Sorrow methods of conversionary used, to sway the susceptible. And those who were determined will take their time to get what they want. And when the seduction is successful, those who succumbed ask themselves: “Was I seduced… or was this what I wanted, all along?...”

/Desperate Housewives, S06E16/

Lust, one of 7 deadly sins. Who is better at seduction – women or men? Couldn’t help but wonder…at the end who chooses who? Men are sure of being the ones who choose women, but what if a man has just fallen a victim for woman’s seduction. What if women are the ones who say the last word, who choose men, so men can think: “Was I seduced…or was this what I wanted all along?’’

Seduction is an art at the point when the victim doesn’t catch the evildoer and can make nothing of being succumbed, or at least gives a puzzled look about whose fault was it. Seduction is tending to entice one into a desired action, but does the offender do it in his own need or maybe he is not so guilty as we could think, maybe that WAS what we wanted all along, we were just scared to make a conversion from our wants to our needs?

Seduction and sex ... Well..Seduction is always more singular and sublime than sex and it commands the higher price. You can seduce a man without taking anything off, without even touching him.

Keep thinking...where the line between the good and the bad is drawn. Maybe by being seduced we are freed to learn things which cannot be taught. Seduce my mind and you can have my body, find my soul and I'm yours forever...

Here is nothing susceptible of proof but one for sure by seduction we help each other to look inside ourselves and understand is all we are so desired about worth the conversion.

Do we really have to lose if do not succeed in seduce...?

The Girl Code

2010-02-27T13:02:00.000-08:00

So we…Women just bond – we don’t seem to need all those props and trappings, pop and ceremony, sports and secrecy and silly games and funny handshakes. All women need for bonding is couple of chairs and a pot of tea – maybe not even that. But… Whether you’re married, single, or sworn off men forever, to be part of this sisterhood and blessed with friends, The Laws of Girl Code is a capacious, complicated, and compulsory tome for all women. Girl Code has existed for generations, protecting and preserving friendships from our estrogen-infused tendency towards cattiness. Abide by Girl Code and you are sure to live a long, happy, drama-free life (at least when it comes to avoiding cat fights).

I couldn’t help but wonder where this Girl Code comes from, is it made in every girl’s blood or is it something we learn for surviving? Are the girl code really for women, would we need it if there were no men? Do men has pushed us to make the girl code or does just every girl is filled with bitchiness and has that insatiable need to complicate everything in life? Whatever…Any rulebreak is punishable by bitching from fellow females.

The Single Girl Code is the most complex and voluminous of all the Girl Code sections simply because of the nature of the beast. When you are unattached, you are essentially in competition with all other single women, including your friends.

Although Rule no 1 and the MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL: Never, ever, under any circumstances date your friend's; exs, past crushes, guys who have humiliated/used her and guys she currently fancies... Do this at your own risk biatch!! Even This IS the most important it is still very common not to observe. But if You break it forget about your girlfriend forever and prepare for the BIG catfight.

Why do we ever need the men another girl has condemned? Is one woman’s disaster another’s luck? Can my tears really be happiness for someone else?

Rule no 2 : It is perfectly acceptable to take an automatic dislike to a girl/ judge them without ever speaking to them. And that’s what WE, women, do all the time.. Not the right clothes, hair, body or attitude (if it ever gets so far)? Oh…Sweety, don’t even look at us! Men has always considered to be competitive, but take a better look at women…They have made Lipstick Jungle out there and You- Men are lucky to live outside that area although close enough to sometimes get involved.

Rule no 3: Never come down to Boyfriend illness. It’s contagious, can quarantine you from all human contact, and is grounds for public uproar, geared towards you. Always make time for your friends and lead a balanced life.Whether you plan a poker night every week, or make a vow to have Gossip Girl dates every Monday, keep a ritual with your friends and do your best to always honor it. Yes, we are very good at rituals and for goodness sake if you do not attend one, there will definitely be gossips behind your back…and an intervention immediately. Do not choose a man over your best friend! . If you change boyfriends so fast they rarely achieve name status, a man must be around for at least six weeks before you make your friends bother to learn his first name. Until such time, he should be referred to as "The boy" or "That guy". That’s how we do It before a man has earned our respect : If we just met a guy and know absolutley nothing about him, but need to refer to him during 'girl talk' we use one example of who he is, something he has, or what he does, and he becomes... that guy. Boys keep in mind: if you date a girl, you date her best friends too, that’s how it is and it will never ever change just for you..

Rule no 4: You are to never diss a friends boyfriend except to agree lightly or nod when she says he's being an asshole. (In most cases it is easier to nod.) Exception: If a guy cheated or dumped your friend it is exceptional for you to claim he isn't good enough, and that she deserves better as well as reminding her that he was an asshole anyway.

If you’ve gone through a breakup, chances are you had your army of girlfriends, however big or small, rally around you to pull you out of the abysmal trenches of post-breakup depression. They helped you put the pieces back together, realize that your life doesn’t suck without him, and that, actually, you’re probably better off without him. Chocolate is an accepted food in any occasion… But just don’t forget …

Rule no 5: Always remember who was there to pull you up by the bootstraps and be sure to repay the favor when they’re down in the dumps. If a friend had a horrendous day at work, bring over a bottle of wine and your Sex & The City DVDs to cheer her up. The little things go a long way.

Just remember no matter what, to be part of this sisterhood and blessed with friends is a wonderful thing, so honor it. Whether you’re married, single, or sworn off men forever, remember: “a friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.”

Cognition: Live for the nights You can't remember with the friends You'll never forget!

The Frames

2010-02-27T03:44:00.000-08:00

In this never ending drama we called life; everyone has a part to play. One is the evil Mother In Law or Despotic Father. There are the Rich ones and the Poor. One who has lost his sight and someone waking up at a hospital without memories. Fancy Houses and Expensive Cars. The Lovers and Cheating spouses. Lies and Betrayal. A young girl pregnant and someone stealing her child. Heroes and always honest ones. But at the end it is all about our way of perception.

There are lot of homeless people living on streets – mothers, children, professor, teachers, scientists- someone who was honored, adored, appreciated, respected, loved once, now trying to get through the day, finding shelter and food, getting condemning looks every day for what? Being dirty because there are no places to have a bath? For drinking or using drugs just ‘cause they know no other way how not to freeze or feel the emptiness and loneliness? For stealing to get some food?

Interesting, when you put a story behind somebody, the negative nasty things they do goes like:”Oh, wait, there some issues there…” Everybody has a story; everybody has a reason they say and do things they do even if they are nasty. It doesn’t justify the nastiness but that’s let you understand where somebody is coming from.

There are always two sides of every story. It is crazy how other peoples’ perception of us makes things happen. We tend to put everything in frames, put our stamp on every picture, without asking, without trying to understand. The artist first paint the canvas and just then-after the spiritual work is finished- put in the frame ,because frame impairs one’s freedom, the way we express things. We put things in rectangular limitation; there is no way for our thoughts to escape. Sooner or later we still meet with an obstacle of bias and stereotype- too fat or too skinny, too stylish or plain, black or white, too clever, too dummy. Everyone has its own experience of life, we all come from different places, we may go in same directions, but pasts…they come in all shapes and sizes and disrupt our life in variety of ways.

Yes…It IS easier to give a condemning look than to ask what’s wrong, it’s safer to keep walking by, than to get involved. There are a lot of dangerous things, there is much to be afraid of in this world. Now… It’s the thoughts in our head that terrify us the most. How do we conquer these thoughts? How to clear this hurdle, and break the frame, to see what’s deeper inside?

We start by giving a peace of bread to homeless, saying a freaky and unpopular girl :”Hey, You look really beautiful today!”, helping someone with his schoolwork or an elder person to cross the street, do not frowning on different nationalities- the smiles we’ll get back will remind us - what does not kill us just makes us stronger. We cannot change the whole world, but we have a choice to make someone’s day brighter. No one of us knows what can happen even the next minute, but we still go forwards, because we trust, because we have faith, by giving that faith to others, so they’ll know that someone cares, we’re saving our own lives. So maybe it is worth trying understanding not only the good part but the bad one too and maybe from different angle it doesn’t look so dangerous anymore.

Cognition: "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down."

Caution Contents Hot!

2010-02-27T03:42:00.000-08:00

- Antonio...I’m Hot.....

- Undress....

- Antonio...? I am Hot...

- Strip off..!

When to know it’s just warm or…too hot to get involved..? Does it depend on our perception? Is it better to see the sign first than to get surprised by the hotness? And why do we even need signs at the first place, when we are supposed to know that the coffee, we usually take on the way, is always hot. Do we need warnings every time we get into something? Should there be sign “Caution contents hot” to all relationships we start, although, we still know they won’t always be so “cool” and we might burn, or it’s just human nature to make the same mistakes again..and..again..? Perceptiveness – getting things straight or the opposite – makes it all complicated?

When we can see the hotness from outside, then what is left for inside…coldness? And does everything that looks cold from outside starts melting when it gets warmer? Couldn’t help but wonder, isn’t that just part of relationships, not to know what is inside that container. We empty out the content and then just flip it in garbage. At the end …who has been emptied – that other, we or just the big cup that is containing everything. Just a carton mug no one cares - trashed and then recycled, later useful again. But how many times it can be recovered?

When we burn by a hot drink it is unpleasant for a while but we keep on drinking until it IS empty, although, the taste is not the same anymore. We should be careful and take it with little sips. Relationships, like the mug of coffee- the sign is there but do we ever read that tiny tainy note. However we don’t have reason to blame anybody but ourselves for taking that big gulp of that HOT content. HOT- a potential hazard. What looks like soft and sweet could scald your trusting tongue.

How can it be that a hot person we see at first is considered to be something fabulous. But when we take all our guts to go closer we are freezed out by his coldness? Hey, where all that Hot went? Should there be sign “Caution contents COLD”? Hottie gets into Coldie. We can burn by a frost too.

But at the end It’s not all about hot or cold, when it is too hot we can add the cold, when it is too cold we add the hot, we should learn how to get the warm that is specific for each of us. What is too hot for one is not for other, so that’s why the world is full of options. Everyone needs its own dose for the perfect coffee.

Cognition: Hot heads and cold hearts never solved anything.

Love Ya, xoxo

TMI Thursday: Deperate Guys looking for Girls

2010-02-25T07:39:00.000-08:00

"Alright, folks, you know the rules. Join us all in humiliating the crap out of yourself every Thursday by sharing some completely tasteless, wholly unclassy, “how many readers can I estrange THIS week??” TMI story about your life. Or hell, about someone else’s!"

Well, You tell me, how desperate should one be to set to such drastic measures.

It was about a year ago when me & my friends get free entrances to one of the biggest night clubs in our country as the bonus for our dancing performance in a show for one of the aquaparks.

So happens that it was also one of my friend's birthday so we decided to go. But..the night didn't turned out as we planned & when we finally got to the club (just 2 of us not 4 as we planned) it was like 4:00pm, pretty late for starting clubbing.

Realizing that the night out was total Fail we still decided to take some drinks & just seat there for a while since the club was the aim of our night despite of all the obstacles & time.

While seating & watching how other people were enjoying the night and dancing ( sounds fun, doesn't it? :D) a guy was coming forward to us...and now starts the best part...

He went to my friend & ask if he could take a sip of her drink, then without the notice he was drinking from my friend's glass, afterwards he smiled & asked our names.

Hey, guy, what was that? Your "best" pick up line of all times?

Oh, you think, That was insane? wait the next One...

Of course we got rid of that "drink & ask name" guy, but by the time we've decided that the night was totally passed and we should go another guy bumped into us.

I don't know what was wrong with ME that night, but he again turned to my FRIEND and asked her to dance, not mentioned that he was totally drunk, so she denied the proposal and kept going to the exit...

I was following her but the " drunk dancer" guy after received rejection by my friend asked ME : "Maybe You?"
Come on.. do you really are such an idiot to think that any girl would agree to take the second proposal , especially if you asked her friend first and she rejected?

So..yeh..the night WAS awful, but The one thing I realized was how desperate can one man be to get a girl... :D

Champagne for Something

2010-02-24T02:15:00.000-08:00

Why we so desperately want to be in control of our life? Trying something new, doing crazy things is so unbelievable, just because of the fear losing control? Maybe it’s human nature to be in charge of everything – relationship, work, family.

Stereotype or bias that suddenly changing your life direction leaving everything behind is something bad and amoral.

We drink champagne every time there is an important event in our life, usually big, happy and life altering – birthday, wedding, child birth, promotion, graduation, anniversary, New Year. We realize the life goes on, a new faze has come. Even for those who don’t like champagne it’s the symbol of new beginning. Or is that just prove nothing has changed, all goes its successfully conditional way.

Why don’t we see so often people drinking champagne in funeral, for divorce, losing job? Sounds crazy? But its still life altering, still a new direction in life. You know where the terrifying part starts? It shows the real change of the life not another year going on the same programmed way, it shocks us and that’s why it seems so scary. Do we need to be shocked, what’s wrong with the successful life? Does there always has to come that black line, cannot we escape? How to know when the change is needed?

We don’t have to move to different country without penny in pocket to find that something to drink our champagne for? Something that really makes change, something we are scared about but still so excited, something we love and are passionate for.

Do you have the passion that keeps the balance of your life, that takes the routine off, or is your passion your routine.

Dancing once used to be THAT something for me, now… it has become my routine I need to find my new something for.

Do all the passions we once had, sooner or later become our routines and we need to find new ones.
Do all the new relationships we were so excited at the beginning later become the routine and we need to escape from.

Is it like renting something for a period of your life, and then just give it back where it belongs? And how long should that period be? Although dancing still helps me to get rid of daily stress, it has become one of my jobs I am happy for. How much is it in our hands

and when the destiny steps in?

It’s hard to admit that we are the ones that have struggled, easier to criticize others, but can we really change somebody else if we are not able to change ourselves? What IS easier? The truth is we cannot own anybody but ourselves. We rent and there is always the rules included how to treat them. We made rules for our life too and that’s what shows how far we should go to make the change, to find that crystal glass of champagne for something.

Every day somebody in the world has birthday, anniversary, promotion, child birth. Don’t drink champagne for every day, do it for one that special something!

Cognition: Life makes you feel the way you live it.

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17 Question Tag- part 2

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Almost.

I just adore this song....

Find your All That.

by ~paranoidalna

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More personal...? Ok....

Everything goes on...

Simple.

Choose Your Thoughts.

Purse.

Relax...

Unhealing pain.

Get started now.

Choice.

Quote for day.

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Pasts...

Smile on credit.

Youtube Sensation - Hand Dancers

even if it’s treasonous?

Confession...

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.

At times I wish I could change the past...but sometimes the past changes you. Never regret anything because at some point, you wanted it.

I’m not gonna get drunk to please the crowd I'm not gonna be a slut and sleep around I'm gonna say what I think and say it loud I'm gonna say what I believe & I'm gonna stand proud I'm gonna be me, no matter who I'm around..

Listen to what people say when they are mad, that is when the truth comes out...

If you could go back in time 10 years and tell your younger self something, what would it be?

If you had the opportunity to live one year of your life over again, which year would you choose?

'Screaming Children Will Not Be Tolerated'

The Six.

Summer reverse Autumn

Sleepless Nights

What Difference Does That Make?

Relevant or Not.

Letter to a reader

Cheese For Free Is Just In Mousetrap

Studies, dance, beauty sleep?

Charity ---> Home--->Charity ?

Seduce or lose

The Girl Code

The Frames

Caution Contents Hot!

TMI Thursday: Deperate Guys looking for Girls

Champagne for Something

I’m not gonna get drunk to please the crowd
I'm not gonna be a slut and sleep around
I'm gonna say what I think and say it loud
I'm gonna say what I believe & I'm gonna stand proud
I'm gonna be me, no matter who I'm around..